Online communication follows its own set of rules, but just like in real life, there are all kinds of people—some of whom provoke conflicts and behave in an extremely inappropriate manner.
Manipulation
When interacting on forums or websites like wedaf.com, it is possible to find good acquaintances and even friends. But how can you avoid falling into their manipulative traps?
Unfortunately, no one is completely protected from toxic or aggressive behavior. However, it is possible to recognize and manage such situations to prevent manipulators from gaining control over your emotions.
These individuals will try to provoke negative emotions and instill guilt. Once you feel guilty and seek their approval to “make up for it,” you become easier to manipulate.
Why do they do this? On a deep psychological level, it feeds their ego. On a more practical level, it helps them get what they want—whether it’s control over the conversation or some personal gain. Some will pressure you to focus solely on topics that matter to them.
Who are manipulators?
Manipulators are often self-centered individuals who love talking about themselves. They believe the world revolves around them and always find a “victim” to control, as they tend to be emotionally abusive. They exert pressure, force compliance, and make others feel inferior. Being around them can create the illusion that they are superior, but this is just a well-crafted performance to inflate their sense of importance.
How to handle them—or should you even try?
Encountering such individuals online is common, sometimes even more so than in real life. Many mask their insecurities behind aggressive or manipulative behavior. They thrive on stirring emotions, especially negative ones. Resisting provocation is challenging but necessary.
Toxicity
Like manipulation, toxicity is another form of negative interaction. In situations where engagement is necessary, such as work-related online meetings, toxicity must be shut down immediately. The key is not to escalate the conversation. Do not engage in debates, do not attempt to justify yourself, and do not try to understand what the toxic person “really meant.” Their goal is to provoke a reaction, and they enjoy drawing negativity from others.
Your best defense is to deny them this satisfaction. Change the topic or steer the discussion in another direction. If the person tries to bring the conversation back into a toxic space, skillfully avoid conflict and remain calm. Remember: no one can upset or offend you unless you allow it. By demonstrating your ability to maintain a constructive dialogue, you take away their power.
If a new acquaintance starts exhibiting toxic behavior in text conversations or video calls, set clear boundaries politely but firmly. A lighthearted joke or a subtle hint can signal that such behavior is unacceptable. If the toxicity persists despite your efforts, it is best to minimize or completely cut off communication.
All conversations should be constructive, inspiring, and meaningful. Communication should uplift and encourage mutual respect, rather than drain emotional energy.
Conflicts
Not all conflicts are inherently negative. Some disagreements involve constructive dialogue, where differing opinions are shared, explained, and either accepted or debated with respect. Such conflicts can be productive, as they help clarify misunderstandings and prevent future friction over the same issues.
However, there are also destructive conflicts. In these cases, one person intentionally tries to provoke the other by violating their personal boundaries or targeting sensitive topics. The reasons for such behavior vary—from childhood traumas to deeply ingrained beliefs and attitudes developed over time. Some individuals simply have a difficult personality and do not feel the need to change. Instead, they see themselves as special and expect the world to revolve around them.
What makes this type of communication dangerous?
The real danger lies in how these individuals can gradually pull others into serious conflicts. Initially, they may appear friendly and even gain trust. Over time, after gathering enough personal information—perhaps even details about your location—they might start arguments, provoke disputes, or escalate the situation.
In extreme cases, knowing where someone lives can lead to threats or blackmail. This is why it is important to avoid sharing too many personal details, such as your home address or workplace, especially in early interactions. Cases of stalking and harassment are not uncommon.
Before inviting someone into your personal space, take time to communicate and build trust. If you decide to meet, choose a public place, such as a café, where you are surrounded by other people and have ensured safety.
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